IS SEX IMPORTANT IN OUR CHRISTIAN MARRIAGE?
Sex is very important in our marriages and it not only meant for reproduction but also strengthen the marriage as whole. It also helps to prevent Immorality. Here is some wisdom concerning sex:
Corinthians 7: 1-7 Now for the matters you wrote about: “It is good for a man not to have sexual relations with a woman.” 2 But since sexual immorality is occurring, each man should have sexual relations with his own wife, and each woman with her own husband. 3 The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. 4 The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife. 5 Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. 6 I say this as a concession, not as a command. 7 I wish that all of you were as I am. But each of you has your own gift from God; one has this gift, another has that.
Lessons you can take from the above verses:
1. One needs to examine his/herself very well if he/she can marry and abide by the rules and regulations govern marriage.
2. When opposite sex, love each other and decide to get married and have a family, this should include divine purpose and loyalty, in thoughts and actions.
3. Marriage isn’t just the legitimization of sex.
4. The forming of a family isn’t just getting married and having kids.
5. God's marriage union is where the Bible says a man and a woman become "of one flesh." It is where the love of God is revealed through parents, to their children and many generations to come.
SEX: A DIVINE PARCEL
All that God has given us is good. And everything that he does has the purpose of revealing his glory. As believers, we need to understand that sex is one of the divine gifts that God has provided for our happiness. God uses sex to bring forth offspring.
IMPRECISE UNDERSTANDING OF THE SEXUAL RELATIONSHIP
Unfortunately, society today has false expectations about sex and marriage. Most of us have early exposure to sexuality through fashion that dictates what is attractive and sexy, in novels, television, movies, the Internet and even pornography. These sources may promote an attitude of free sex with anyone at any time. It is confusing love with desire. This view focuses too much on the physical nature of sex and not on the whole experience of working in harmony with your partner. Man and woman were made for each other. It is the reciprocal giving and receiving that links not just bodies, but minds and hearts. It isn’t just a physical and sexual pleasure, but also one that is mental and spiritual.
CHASTITY: EXERCISING LOYALTY
Abstinence before marriage is training for fidelity and loyalty through rough times in marriage. One attractive young friend couple was so happy and in love people couldn't help feeling happy around them. After a few years of being married, a tragic accident made the wife a quadriplegic. This made their physical relationship difficult. Her husband cared for and loved her even more. She was willing to let him go and "be happy" with someone else, but he stood firmly by her. Today, over 20 years later, they say they love each other more than ever. This is the kind of divine love which transcends sexual desires. Sex is an important and pleasurable part of married life. God has not given us this gift as a mere amusement or satisfaction of bodily desires. There are not any instructions from the Lord stating that sex between a husband and wife should be only for procreation. However, the kind of indiscriminate sex we see in society is also not approved anywhere.
SEX BRINGING HARMONY TO A DIVINE MARRIAGE
A person can feel immediately attracted to another, but love goes beyond physical attraction. It is something deep, inclusive and comprehensive. Physical attraction is only one of several elements; there must be faith, trust, understanding and unity. There must be common ideals and standards. There must be great devotion to one another and fellowship. Love includes purity, progress, sacrifice and selflessness. That kind of loves never tires or wanes, but continues to live in the midst of sickness and sorrow, poverty and privation, triumphs and disappointments, in time and in eternity.
For the love to continue to exist there must be a steady increase in confidence and understanding, sincere and frequent expressions of gratitude and affection. Each must forget their own self and tend constantly with each other. Interests, hopes and goals are to continuously converge to the same point. When we get married we must not ignore sex in our marriages but have time for it when the need arises.
What is the benefit of sex in our marriages?
1. Sex serves to help “heal” relationship in marriage because it is an act ordained by God
2. for reproduction
3. Unite the family
4. Entertain the couples
5. Bring divine covenant between the couples
6. Avoid immoral sex (sex outside marriage)
7. It speed up love among couples
Have time for God and have time to have SEX because it’s a Divine gift in marriage!