The most harmful thing we caused to our marriages is to have sex outside the marriage. Having sex outside your marriage brings disconnection between the souls. It creates a lot of problems which are spiritual and manifest in the physical realm. Many cannot be serious in their marriage because of having another covenant outside the marriage. Marriage is about covenant and two covenants reacts which bring fighting and quarrelling every day among unstable marriage.
We should be careful what we do in our marriage; sometimes our children may inherit it biologically. If we can manage our marriage well, then we can enjoy the fruit of our labour. Sex play vital role in our marriage and we should not play with it outside our marriage. Don’t betray your partner confidence in you.
Once you have covenant with another girl or man outside your marriage, it takes the grace to come out. Don’t create problem for yourself and later find solution around. Getting solution for blood covenant is not uneasy task. Blood covenant is the most powerful covenant on earth. Breaking it takes the grace therefore refrain from have sex outside your home.
Sexual play (intercourse, oral, etc.) is supposed to be for marriage. Whether or not you're a Christian, it's wise to keep this rule. It not only opens a person up to diseases and curses such as HIV, but it also creates unholy soul ties (spiritual bondage between one person and another), which can cause unclean (demonic) bondages to transfer from one person to the other.
Brief Biblical look at soul ties 1 Corinthians 6:16, "What? know ye not that he which is joined to an harlot is one body? for two, saith he, shall be one flesh."
Obviously the two didn't get married, but something spiritual "happened" when they were joined physically in the act of sex. They were "joined"; their souls were "tied." Often there are men who have an adultery with a prostitute (one night stand), and afterwards, even years later, are still thinking about that girl! That is because a soul tie has been created.
Dangers of unholy soul ties
Having sex outside your marriage endangers your marriage in so many ways:
1. Your spiritual life backslide
2. Your partner too may not be faithful
3. Your business may be at risk due to strange woman you had sex with
4. You can be easy be possessed by demon
5. Sign of disobeying God
6. Bringing curse to your generation
7. There is always doubt in your heart, thinking your partner may one day know
8. You are not far from divorce
9. It is easy to enter into polygamy
10. Your marriage can not be stable ( Jumping from one woman to the other)
Unholy soul ties can be 'demonic bridges' between one person to the next. For example, if you were to have extra-martial sex with somebody who was involved in the occult and had horrible fears of demons, and was afraid of her own shadow. you could end up with the same kind of tormenting spirits as she has, and be just as fearful (although you could have been afraid of nothing before sleeping with her!). This is because you are not only opening yourself up to a curse for sexual sin, but also a soul tie with a person who is tormented by demons.
Don't think to yourself that the person you are having sex with is clean from demon spirits. Demons spirits can cause everything from depression to horrible fears (panic attacks, etc.) and a huge list of problems that people face every day!
Struggle against compulsive lustful desires?
If you have a compulsive struggle with lust, bad thoughts, etc., you may be struggling with what they call an iniquity. An iniquity is like a weakness (lust, anger, pride, etc.) and it could have been handed down from your ancestors (Exodus 20:5) or it could have been opened up in your own life (Lev 5:17).
If you need prayer, call or send me message and let us pray together, and you will be free from that prison. You can come out of it if only you accept Jesus Christ into your life and confess your sin.
God bless you
Pastor Derrick Ahovi