QUESTIONS ABOUT RELATIONSHIPS
1. Is it right for a Christian to date or marry a non-Christian?
Answer: There is nothing wrong with that but if only one can bear the consequences. It is likely to have a loving relationship with an unbeliever. But it is also inevitable that such a close connection will draw the believer away from God (1 Corinthians 15:33). Dating or marrying an unbeliever will seemingly solve a lot of issues, such as loneliness, perceived cultural pressure to marry, and the desire to live life with someone else. But the solution comes with a very high cost.
Believers in Jesus Christ are spiritually alive. They are citizens of heaven (Philippians 3:20). They know and have a growing relationship with God. They are called to be living sacrifices and to live their lives as unto God (Romans 12:1–2; Colossians 3:1–17). Unbelievers are still slaves to sin (Romans 6:6–11). The whole foundation of life for believers and unbelievers is opposed. Willingly becoming one flesh with someone who is spiritually dead is ill-advised.
To make such decision one must examine him/herself well before going into such marriage.
2. What does the Bible say about sex before marriage / premarital sex?
Sex before Marriage or premarital sex is one of the most sinful act which destroy the temple of God. Since we are the image of God, we must keep the temple of God Holy. Read Hebrews 13:4, 1Corinthians 6:18. We should not defile the marriage bed but allow God to reign in the marriage.
3. What is an appropriate level of intimacy before marriage?
The bible has no guard lines for that but it is good:
To understand marriage
To be matured when both come together to discuss matters relating to their future marriage
To know each other well to avoid divorce after marriage
To pray well and feeling the presence of God in the courtship
To have the right mind for marriage
To be able to read Bible together and study the word of God
To agree on matters more than to disagree on issues pertaining the marriage.
4. How far is too far?
In courtship, distance is not the problem but how will you study each other is the problem. Distance relationship sometimes work but all depends on both. How trust is being created and no vacuum for mistrust. Doing what is right at the end of the rope matters to me. With God all things are possible
5. What does the Bible say about interracial marriage?
Before I answer this question you need broad consultation (Consulting together) in this way can help you to make your marriage a success.—Proverbs 13:10; 21:5.
All humans descended from the first man, Adam, and his wife, Eve, whom the Bible calls “the mother of everyone living.” (Genesis 3:20) For this reason, the Bible says of God: “He made out of one man every nation of men.” (Acts 17:26) Regardless of their race, all humans are part of just one family. What, though, if racial prejudice or class distinctions are strong where you live.
6. What does the Bible say about dating/ courting?
Dating is an idea that I have not really found in the Bible. Pursuing a spouse and courtship, although not specifically worded in the Bible, are found in quite a few places. How are we to date and court someone in the culture we live in today? Well, let’s look at the culture back in the Biblical days and see the truth conveyed through the Word of God. Moses recorded that God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone. I will make him a helper fit for him.” (Genesis 2:18) The point is that God wants us all to find a mate of the opposite sex because marriage is God’s way of paralleling us as the bridegroom of Christ but will he be happy with serial dating?
Courtship is defined as “the activities that occur when people are developing a romantic relationship that could lead to marriage or the period of time when such activities occur.” (merriam-webster.com) These “activities” are mainly addressed in sexual terms. Let’s look at a handful of verses and see how we should act in a courtship.
Song Of Solomon 1:1-2:17 is recognized as the betrothal period for two people in love.
Song Of Solomon 1:2 – “Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth!”
This is honestly a great verse for courtship. Your kiss for another shows them that they are the only person you love in your courtship (but this can be avoided so that the meal will not be eating before dinner table).
Song Of Solomon 1:4 – “Draw me after you; let us run.”
This verse is said by the woman and she is excited to see her man again. Men, we all need to daily pursue who we are courting. This will show the woman you love that you are interested in her and that you cherish her.
Song Of Solomon 2:10 – “My beloved says to me: ‘Arise, my love, my beautiful one, and come away.’”
When courting, talk like this to the one you are betrothed to. Tell them how beautiful/handsome they are. Be intentional about it too. Draw to certain things like: hair, eyes and lips. Be specific.
1 Corinthians 7:2 – “But because of the temptation to sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband.”
This verse shows clearly that sex is reserved for marriage and as we court a member of the opposite sex we need to abstain from sexual pleasures until marriage.
Proverbs 18:22 – “He who finds a wife (or husband) finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord.”
7. Are we supposed to be actively looking for a spouse, or wait for God to bring a spouse to us?
Answer: The man supposed to look for spouse while he prays (Proverbs 18:22 – “He who finds a wife (or husband) finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord.)”. The lady needs to prepare herself - character and dress modestly to look attractively while praying in the spirit.
8. Is it wrong for a couple to live together before they are married?
Answer: It is 100% wrong why?
It is likely both may be practicing premarital sex
One may be further up with the other behavior since they are not yet married, they can be separated before the marriage.
The society may not value that marriage since the families have not agreed and may not regard them as husband and wife.
9. Is there such a thing as soul mates? Does God have one specific person for you to marry?
Answer: No, there is no soul mate but we have what I called compatibility. Since Adam and Eve time, God no more force anyone into marriage so that you may blame Him as Adam did.
10. How young is too young to be in a romantic relationship?
Marriage has no age limit but society, families, countries etc. have rules and regulations. Example in Ghana if you are 18 years old you have the right to marry. All depend on the couple’s maturity.
11. Should a Christian use a dating service to find a spouse?
Yes, but personally I will not advice anyone to use dating services why?
This is because you don’t know who is at the end of the rope you are pulling and it is like staking a lotto if you win fine but if you lost, one loss all. Since marriage is life time, you must know the person well before engaging yourself. You can be friends rather than searching for partner. More more send us message through filling our form here.